Things you should never do in a Relationship

It’s funny how we always keep concluding the dos and donts in a relationship. We all know those certain things that we have to never say or do, just like an invisible area you are barred from entering and everyone is so tempted to go in (just out of natural instinct). However, once you are in there, there is no going back. In simple words, you just screw up if you cross that line.

One moment you are like ‘Oh! Everything is so great’ and in a flip second you have a stupid fight and say something and BAM! It’s never the same again. Things changed, you flipped out.

Let’s see what these clear No-No areas are.

Don’t compare them with anybody. And this goes both ways, guys don’t compare your girl with anyone else, and girls keep your mouth shut even when the other man is so dreamy. We get it you see other people and get swayed away in the wind of how he/she is different, but just remember you got into this relationship because you love him/her. Stick to that, not everybody is same.

Don’t call them with someone else’s name. I know sometimes a thought about someone is stuck in your head and you might end up calling bae with someone else’s name, but it is a clear no-no thing. Just try harder and avoid such incidences. It just puts him/her off, totally souring their mood.

Don’t tell them that they do nothing to keep this relationship working.  Well, this might be true in some cases and false in some. Judge your relationship carefully before saying anything like this. You might end up ruining everything because let’s accept it nobody like to get thrashed when they are genuinely trying as much as you are.

Don’t tell them they are useless. Especially when career is concerned or something they are really sensitive about. I’ll just repeat one line said by Rachel (F.R.I.E.N.D.S.) “Imagine the worst things you think about yourself. Now how would you feel if the one person that you trusted the most in the world thinks them too”

 

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Just Shut up your Mind

I know everybody keeps whining about how their mind never shuts up. Being an OCD freak, I exactly know what it is. ‘Oh! You are sleepy and suddenly your mind decides to never shut up’, ‘Trying to work, and a thought crossed your mind, well! Never really crossed just settled there permanently-‘ until the boss decides to throw his vocal cords at you.

We have all been familiar with such incidents, and how our mind actually tries to mess with our life is impeccable. Just today, I’ve been trying to work since morning and can’t even get through one simple task because my dearest mind won’t shut up. Now I have a lot of work and just an hour left to do all that.

The other day I thought Oo, I am thinking too much, let’s doodle to put it off. Instead of putting it off I actually doodled ‘Do you have a plan?’, ‘I don’t even have a PLA’ something I remembered from TV series F.R.I.E.N.D.S. Some doodle thing perfectly suiting the situation then. So you just don’t put your mind off rather put your mind in everything.

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Some days when I am on a tea break with my colleagues, I aimlessly start staring at people- Okay! I don’t do it, I am just swallowing my mind and in the process end up staring at random people. Then my colleagues are seen shouting ‘Too many tabs open’. Like ya, that’s me with all the infinite tabs running all at once.

Even while writing this blog, I am constantly switching between various tabs (Actual ones on my computer) because I keep remembering different stuff and I need to explore it all. Basically, like background music my mind has a background voice somewhere at the back of my head continuously poking me, trying to make me not concentrate on the task at hand. Right now it is like ‘Common you are still on that blog, get over it already’

So that’s what I am going to do now- get other things done. Bye-bye